Sometimes I cannot help myself to see mom’s who have all of their shit together. You know, the one who has their monthly meal menu planned out for her family, the one who has a tidy house, the mom who has time to go to the gym and be a soccer mom at school, the mom who has it all together in the midst of her 5 year old child have a meltdown in the middle of the mall, the mom who has it all.
I have come to realize now that no such mom exist. There is no perfect parent.
Sky has been in getting in quite a bit of trouble this past 2-3 weeks. And thank goodness for my better half – he had an excellent plan in mind on what he calls “character building.”
So, what we did was ground him
indefinitely for a week…
…no Kindle or anything electronic.
…no toys in his room, except for 3 small toys that we let him choose.
…when the sun is out he will stay and play in the backyard.
…when he is in the house, he will only stay in his room.
…he is only allowed to draw, read and use his imagination.
…and anything we say – he has no right to complain.
If I didn’t meet Tony and I was to raise Sky on my own – it would have been just easy to kind of buy his love through toys and stuff that does not matter. It would have been so easy and simple just to let him do his thing. Being a single mom is daunting, with a new career in a foreign land to concentrate on.
I know that if it was just me around Sky. I would have been screaming and transform myself into a raging monster when he does not behave appropriately.
But finding a better half who only has Sky’s best interest at heart – and that is to raise him to the BEST man that he can be, winging it with him have gotten a lot simpler – but not at all easier.
Last night we had a small discussion with Sky to kind of kick of our week, on saying please, thank you and your welcome and what are the things that he would like different as well.
There was no screaming or shouting or telling “I told you so.”
We just talked.
And last night, I learned that Sky would like me to sit down more often with him for school-related work – even if he already finished his homework. And tonight as I washed the dishes and he put away the dishes from the dishwasher while singing a song, “this is one of the things I like mom. Us doing things together. It’s really nice.”
Parenting is not easy, winging it and trying is way better than not doing anything to make sure your children grow up right.