Tonight is still Mother’s day on my side of the world. I only have 1 son – but he is a handful. There are so many times that I second guess myself on how to raise Sky. Being alone and a single mom for awhile, my natural tendency was to spoil him silly. Which is exactly that. Silly.
Having Tony by my side is such a blessing. This is not his first rodeo in being a dad and his grown children are evidence of that. Every boy needs a father figure and Tony may not be perfect – but he is an awesome, awesome man.
So, when I make decisions that I may think that is right for Sky – but Tony trumps it at times. When he explains it – it make perfect sense. There are times though that my “single mom” side comes out and I just want to please Sky.
So, when Tony tells him to do something – Sky just does it. And when I do, I either hear a lot of whining or he questions why, why and why. And growing up Filipina, when you’re mama tells you to do something – you just do it. Some of the time I am firm, most of the time I am not.
And, there are times I kind of wished that Sky was driven enough to try out stuff. We live in a region and we have resources that he could try almost anything that he wants.
“Do you want to learn how to ski?”
“Do you want to try boxing?”
“Do you want to buy some rollerblades?”
“Do you want to run with me?”
“Do you want to learn how to play drums?”
It is almost always a NO.
And when I ask him to do something, either he complains or just do it without question. Sometimes I wished my son would just do what I ask him to and sometimes I wish that he would find that hunger to be bigger, better or just try out anything. Something.
Today, I had a bit of meltdown this morning because I question my mothering skills. And I kind of blamed it on Tony and the good man that he is, made me think otherwise.
Sky may not be as smart or driven or as angelic as some of the kids out there. But, as Tony pointed it out…
HE IS THE HAPPIEST BOY I KNOW. And it’s all because of you. That boy worships you like crazy.
And then, I cried some more.
Tonight, I told Sky to get of his kindle and take a bath. And of course, he groaned and reluctantly marched his way to the bathroom.
I hear him close the door, hear him make a ruckus and then he turned the shower on…
…And then he happily sings under the water. 🙂