When I was 20, I always thought that 40 was such a big number and everyone that I met in that age or more – sounds and seem so…. old.
And yesterday, I turned 40.
I had a wonderful birthday breakfast. Brought Felony to Petco for his monthly bath and grooming. Had a light lunch and mini girl’s afternoon out with two of the most amazing women I know.
And I was so suprised to come home to a house full of great friends and a party that my husband has been planning for weeks or months even. 🙂 I really didn’t think he can pull off something like it.
But he did. And I am oh so lucky and blessed. ❤️
And I had such a great time! These are the kind of times that I have to pinch myself for finding and being with all these wonderful people in less than 4 years after emigrating from The Philippines. It was awesome.
I believe that my journey to adulthood only started when I became a mother, and I pressed on in the realm of “adulting,” when I moved here in the Tri cities, Washington.
My family was half way across the world. No real friends yet, when I first came here. I lived in an empty apartment with an airbed for my first furniture.
I was the only person that I can rely on. Just me, myself and I.
This morning, I thought about all the things that I know now, that I wish I knew when I was in my 20’s or 30’s even. And here are just a handful of them. 🙂
- Start Saving. Have an emergency fund.
- Go clean as you go. Not just about clutter or when you cook. Take responsibility for your emotional messes and say sorry when you hurt someone.
- Wear sunscreen every single day.
- If your parents are still on this earth. Call them once or twice a week. Visit them when you can.
- You are given problems that you can handle.
- When you go in a room with new people, always think, “I hope I like them.” And not “I hope they like me.”
- Be yourself always.
- See the world when you can. Travel.
- Surround yourself with optimistic and wise people.
- Walk away from drama and toxic humans.
- No one is perfect, that includes you. Don’t criticize – unless you have walked in their shoes.
- Don’t go out looking for prince charming. Work at being a Queen. And your King, will find you. I know this! My husband found me. 🙂
- Have integrity in your work. Do the best that you can and never do anything half-baked. This I learned from my mama.
- Set daily, weekly and yearly goals.
- Saying “No” is not a bad thing.
- Don’t be afraid to try. Trying is better than not doing anything at all.
- Always, always be kind.
- Eat Healthy, exercise your mind and your body.
- Look forward and take glimpse of your past – and learn from all the regrets and triumphs.
- Never give up on yourself.
- When all else fails… PRAY. Everything will fall into place.