8 years ago, I used to ask this question in my head all the time. It was a bleak time for me. I didn’t have a career, I was a stay at home mom and was unhappily married at the time. When you grow up around a family that is strong and complete through thick and thin, much like how my parents are; you try to emulate them as much as you can.
Leaving my then husband was not an option for me… Or so, I thought.
I have tried to leave him a good three times before finally calling it to be the FINAL one. But, it took a lot of strength and willpower to finally decide that I WAS MOVING ON. WITHOUT HIM. I knew it was time to leave the day when my three year old son screamed at me, “Mom! Your are so stupid you don’t know what you’re doing!”
That was the most glaring proof that I, indeed needed to leave my ex-husband. But in hindsight, there was a multitude of reasons why I should have left in the first place:
REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD GO FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIP:
- When you have more arguments, silent treatments than meaningful communication or conversation.
- When you have to walk on eggshells the moment you wake up, because you’re afraid you will rock the boat if you don’t follow or do what your partner prefers.
- When tension is almost always in the air and you feel better when your partner is not around.
- You avoid any arguments and just say “Yes” to your partner all the time.
- You feel isolated, because every time you want to see or spend time with you friends, parents or siblings – your partner starts making an argument out of it.
- When you go to a party or a gathering, you have to entertain your partner – making sure they are happy so as he or she does not make a scene.
- When your partner does not respect your uniqueness. Your partner gets upset if he or she sees any spark in your personality, especially if there are other people around.
- When sex becomes a weapon, and your partner constantly points out your flaws and you only do what your partner wants in the bedroom. When you get scoffed at when you ask for what you want and your partner does not prefer it.
- When your partner tells you that you are not smart enough to have a job or does his best to keep you home so you rely entirely up to them.
- This applies to couples with children: If you see or hear your own child berate another or even YOU – because that is what they see how your partner treats you.
If these are always a constant in your relationship and you can’t speak up because of fear or you know you are just going to lose. Think and choose what you really want for you. And remember that whatever choice you make is entirely up to you, but hopefully when you make that choice… You get to ALWAYS BE YOU. ALL. THE. TIME.